Anonymous, Author at Arré

Opposites Distract: What Happens When Your Partner and You Can’t Agree on the Choice of Porn?

I’m someone who wants her escape erotica to look like the Mills & Boons version from her teenage years. Gentle, loving, slow and sensuous. My partner, unfortunately, belongs to the other end of the porno spectrum. He likes his porn to be brutal; the more depraved it is, the better he enjoys it.

Anonymous June 18, 2016

Gender

Why Women Are Afraid of Calling Out Toxic Women Bosses

In progressive industries like mine, few women want to complain against another woman. How was I going to admit, even to myself, that my powerful female boss was a monster, while simultaneously complaining about the lack of women in leadership positions?

Anonymous June 17, 2016

POV

Liberal Indians, Remember to Thank Your “Non-Woke” Parents For Your Broadmindedness

Growing up, my highly educated, intelligent parents, who ran a double-income household even before Cosmopolitan said it was in, were an inspiration. They taught me to question everything, which worked out great... until I started questioning them.

Anonymous June 14, 2016

First Person

Confessions of a Half-Mother: Why I Had an Abortion Even Though I Wanted to Keep the Baby

My mother and father have no idea about my out-of-wedlock pregnancy and abortion. My baby was the final price I have paid in the lifelong war between living life on my terms and allowing my parents’ need to maintain a facade of being the “adarsh” family.

Anonymous April 20, 2016

Gender

How Do You Deal With a Breach of Consent When It Comes from a Same-Sex Friend?

At some point during our undefined courtship, my friend’s attentions went from playful to predatory. I was touched in places I didn’t want to be touched. All the behaviour that would earn a male friend several swift kicks in the nads, possibly even a police complaint. But in the absence of a penis poking my anatomy, I didn’t know how to qualify my experiences as violations.

Anonymous March 29, 2016

First Person

How I Saw the World on a Cocaine Trip (and Why I Stopped)

They say cocaine is the rich person’s drug. Every decision, every thought, can be justified after a couple of lines. Even though it’s no hallucinogen, it allows you to live in a mirage for a few hours. There’s us, the coke users, happy, rich, successful – and then there’s them, the regulars, poor, lazy, and unworthy.

Anonymous March 3, 2016