{"id":993,"date":"2016-04-26T01:49:43","date_gmt":"2016-04-26T01:49:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=993"},"modified":"2016-04-26T01:49:43","modified_gmt":"2016-04-26T01:49:43","slug":"sex-tinder-millennials-dating-relationships-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=993","title":{"rendered":"The Lost Art of Meeting People"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"container page-content\"><p><span class=\"dropcap\">I<\/span><\/p><\/div><p> fought a wave of depression the day I downloaded Tinder. I felt defeated even before I had started using the dating app. To me, Tinder was where the degenerates and losers congregated. It signalled a personal failure.\n\nMy attempts at driving a romance the old-school way had nose-dived spectacularly. Friends had been unable to set me up with anyone, in a world where friend circles are shrinking, friends with benefits are increasing, and everyone comes with baggage and backstories that are complicated. \n\nSo I chose instead to download Tinder and bemoan the end of old-school romance and the cheapening of human existence, as we swipe right or left based on carefully curated selfies and a bio that may or may not reflect the person\u2019s true identity. I was ready to play this contemptible game where the steady stream of players allows for very little mercy and fewer second chances. Even though my heart was not in it, I knew that in an age of immense loneliness, Tinder is awfully convenient.\n\nImagine coming back home at the end of the day, tired to the bone. The TV showing nothing interesting besides reruns of <em>F.R.I.E.N.D.S.<\/em> You let your dinner go cold, and just as Phoebe explains to the gang what finding your lobster is like, it hits you \u2013 you\u2019re very far from finding your lobster. Or even a crustacean you can temporarily lock claws with.\n\nFor me, as for a whole lot of people, it\u2019s that undeniable sense of loneliness that drives us to download dating apps. What better way to find instant company?\n\n<blockquote class=\"quote--center\"><p>We routinely refuse to engage with people we meet in our daily lives, complain about being lonely, and then make no substantial efforts to dispel this loneliness.<\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nAs a generation that depends on its apps for everything from movies to food to fitness, it was only a matter of time before we started ordering in love. Who wants human interaction when ordering a plate of biryani? We\u2019ve come to a point in human evolution when we seek the very thing we deny. A cocktail of avoidant behaviours afflicts us.\n\nEven as we look for affection in an endless pool of online strangers, we find ourselves averting a friendly gaze on the local train, or refusing to make conversation with the amiable general store manager in our neighbourhood. We routinely refuse to engage with people we meet in our daily lives, complain about being lonely, and then make no substantial efforts to dispel this loneliness. Instead, we attempt to fill this strange void by simply swiping away.\n\nI\u2019m just as guilty. My phone had been buzzing incessantly for at least an hour last Saturday. An old friend was back in town, and she wanted to meet. \u201cU free at 6?\u201d read her message. I would be. However, the thought of dragging myself out of bed and taking a shower, to eventually have a tedious conversation about what we\u2019ve been up to in the last few years, discouraged me. (Hey, don\u2019t pretend like you haven\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2016\/04\/12\/t-magazine\/is-staying-in-the-new-going-out.html?_r=0\">done this too<\/a>.)\n\nYet in hindsight, I find myself riddled with regret for not making that effort. At worst, it would have been a dull schmooze. But at best it could have helped allay my growing isolation.\n\nIt\u2019s as though our generation has <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theodysseyonline.com\/the-friendship-crisis\">forgotten<\/a> how to do this \u201cmeet and greet\u201d thing. We\u2019re perpetually exhausted in social interactions, settling for online friendships because they\u2019re far less taxing. Unless, we\u2019re propelled into a situation that compels us to pursue new friendships, we don\u2019t see ourselves taking that important step out of the digital space.\n\nThe existence of dating apps like Tinder is perhaps one of the most awkward things I\u2019ve ever had to explain to my mother. For someone who met her to-be husband when he moved in as her next-door neighbour, the concept of dating someone you\u2019d first met on the internet seems absurd. But things aren\u2019t that easy for everyone, mum. People just aren\u2019t conveniently hanging around when you need them, and serendipity only happens in movies starring John Cusack.\n\nThe rest of us have lost the art of striking up meandering conversations on the fly. We no longer know how to buy an attractive person a drink. And we no longer have the guts to walk up and take our chance without knowing for certain that the person we are walking up to will also swipe right on us. We have turned into social savants who may find themselves at a hot party with many available singles \u2013 but who will not have the faintest clue on how to proceed.\n\nEven after telling myself that it\u2019s only temporary, I\u2019ve returned to the app, time and again, swiping left, right, and centre and acknowledging that we are a generation of cowards, hiding behind our phones.\n\nWe\u2019ve got to realise though, that one has to take the trust fall, again and again and again. It\u2019s exhausting and terrifying and a lot of work until we finally find the one. For everyone else, there\u2019s a plethora of cats to adopt.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Our generation has forgotten how to do the \u201cmeet and greet\u201d thing. 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