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I<\/span>n the first 10 minutes of the excellent dramedy <\/p>You\u2019re the Worst<\/em>, its protagonists meet for the first time outside a wedding hall. The man, Jimmy, had just created a ruckus inside, called the bride (his ex) a bitch, and had been thrown out. The woman, Gretchen, was trying to escape after she\u2019d just stolen one of the presents for the new bride and groom. Jimmy and Gretchen then conversed for about five minutes outside. Their conversation revolved around how bad a boyfriend Jimmy was, how fat the bride\u2019s sister looked, and how the groom had no idea what was he was getting into. In this drunken state of mostly misappropriated hating, Jimmy and Gretchen felt a connection, a pull forged in the crucible of bitchiness, and went home and fucked like there was no tomorrow.\n\nBecause *insert drum roll*\u2026 haters gonna mate.\n\nEnter Hater, a dating app, which matches people on the basis of things they hate. The app, launched in February this year, uses the Tinder<\/a> swipe-left-and-right-on-potential-suitors doctrine and allows you to chat with them, while showing you subjects that each party hates. The app allows you to choose from over 3,000 topics to hate, ranging from Donald Trump to DJ Khaled, which then sets up your profile and incorporates it into the familiar swipe mechanism like Bumble or Tinder.\n\nFor those who come from the \u201cOoooh, we like the same things\u201d school of thought, please go back to school again. A 2006 study<\/a> said, \u201cDiscovering a shared negative attitude about a target person predicted liking for a stranger more strongly than discovering a shared positive attitude\u201d, which means we like those who hate what we hate. Shared interests then is the dumber, uglier, less bitchy younger brother of \u201cshared hate\u201d and is less efficient as a dating mechanism to boot.\n\nImagine finding someone online, going out a couple of times, then finding out that he actually loves the TV show you hate, or worse, this worthless piece of shit wants to take a selfie with everything, ranging from with his food, to the sidewalk outside the restaurant. Hater circumvents all these problems by matching you with someone who actually hates selfies, making initial conversations way easier than they\u2019re supposed to be. We all know most people like \u201ctravelling\u201d and it\u2019s one of the 150 common things you and your date have, but how does that make for date convo?\n

I\u2019ll vehemently argue until the end of time that hate produces definitively better war and poetry.<\/blockquote>\n\u201cHey, you like travelling?<\/em>\n\n\u201cYeah! You?<\/em>\n\n\u201cOh absolutely\u201d<\/em>\n\n\u201cWhere all have you been?\u201d<\/em>\n\n*insert names of mostly dull but two cool places*<\/em>\n\n\u201cOh, cool (If you haven\u2019t been to any) or Oh, I\u2019ve been there too.\u201d<\/em>\n\nIf the two of you have visited the same place, the only way this exchange ends on a positive note, is if you were at the same place at the same time, which is basically you begging the Probability Gods to give you something, anything <\/em>so you can salvage this date.\n\nHating then takes you right past the niceties-laden small talk, to the down-and-dirty bitchy business. It\u2019s why hipsters, whose entire value system is created around hating the mainstream regardless of its merits, feel naturally attracted to other hipsters. Same goes for the self-titled intellectually elite, most of who are now running amok on Twitter, hating on every Drake song, every movie, and Gareebon ka Shakespeare Chetan Bhagat<\/a>. Hate allows you to bond because hate, unlike love, is just an easier emotion to articulate. Fun fact: There are even more words for negative emotions than positive ones. (Yes, I have read every dictionary ever. Alright it was on the internet<\/a>.)\n\nIn the Scientific American, Melanie Tannenbaum<\/a>\u00a0says, \u201cThey (love and hate) both make us act irrationally. They both cloud our thinking and judgment. They\u2019ve both sparked wars, poetry, and some of the greatest epics of all time. They both make our hearts race, our pupils dilate, and our palms sweat.\u201d\n\nI\u2019ll vehemently argue until the end of time that hate produces definitively better war and poetry. Kafka\u2019s entire life was based around hating his father, Kundera\u2019s around despising what the Czech regime did to his homeland, and closer to commonplace, even Devil Wears Prada<\/em> was about hate against a boss. You can cite a billion more examples, but what is undeniable is that hate\u2019s impact on humanity is as important and diverse as Kim Kardashian\u2019s to feminism.\n\nWhat does this say about us though? Should we do away with niceness as a pre-requisite for relationships and seek out hate instead? Or is it time to fill the universe with thinkpieces on \u201cAre we a hating society and need to reflect on where we are going?\u201d\n\nHell no! The poor saps just need to swipe right.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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