{"id":7561,"date":"2016-06-13T18:36:08","date_gmt":"2016-06-13T13:06:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=7561"},"modified":"2016-06-13T18:36:08","modified_gmt":"2016-06-13T13:06:08","slug":"kolkata-teacher-bikini-suspension-why-gender-inequality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=7561","title":{"rendered":"Why Is It Never The Man\u2019s Fault?"},"content":{"rendered":"\nT<\/span>witter was recently aflame with the incident of a St Xavier\u2019s professor from Kolkata being forced to resign when one of her male students was \u2018caught\u2019 by his father looking at her in her swimwear pics.\u00a0 He promptly filed a police case against the assistant professor because, obviously, it was her fault.\n\nIn a world where explicit content is available more freely than fake news (and the two overlap seamlessly), women wear skimpier clothes at the gym, and \u2018bobs\u2019 and \u2018vagine\u2019 are part of everyday vocabulary, I\u2019m sure this is far from the worst the boy has seen. But since hypocrisy is a virtue that\u2019s always a work in progress, the father chose to go after a woman who was an easy target instead of counselling his son on boundaries and respect. Or better, but maybe impossibly coach him about a woman\u2019s to dress as she likes.\n\n

Should he gawk at her body like she is an exhibit in the zoo? Or should he teach his son, this thing called, looking away?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\nBut how can he when women in public spaces are often seen as public commodities. I am sure the gent has no problems when women\u2019s scantily clad images are used\u00a0alongside ads for cars, razors or a 3-bedroom condo overlooking the Hooghly.\u00a0His hell instead breaks loose when a woman shares her swimsuit pics on a public platform of her own accord. Should he gawk at her body like she is an exhibit in the zoo? Or should\u00a0he drag her back to the middle ages and give her a dozen lashes for trying to take agency of her body. Or should he teach his son, this thing called, looking away?\n\nA woman\u2019s sexuality has always tortured men as much as it has enraged them. So, to deal with this conundrum of emotions they choose to police women\u2019s bodies instead of telling themselves –\u00a0 dude, if the mere sight of a woman sends you or your son into a tizzy, the problem is you and not her.\n\nBut why let inconvenient truths come in the way of virtuosity, especially when there\u2019s an easy peasy way of blaming the woman\u00a0for all the transgressions she incites in men. How dare they even try.\n\n

NG not only has to deal with a grumpy Dad hell bent on believing that her pics in a bikini have corrupted his son beyond repair but also a college trying to restore its reputation by slut-shaming her.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\nVirtuosity is a terrible affliction that comes with a side-effect of demonising sexual curiosity that\u2019s passed on to generations like precious heirloom. Let\u2019s be honest you don\u2019t get to a billion people without it. And don\u2019t we all know how well this has worked for our youngsters?\u00a0 They\u00a0get conditioned to see women and their own desires as dirty and grow up to be frustrated incels, who then go onto buy big-ass cars to compensate for their complexes.\u00a0This collective frustration has not augured well for the lady who has identified herself as NG. NG not only has to deal with a grumpy Dad hell bent on believing that her pics in a bikini have corrupted his son beyond repair but also a college trying to restore its reputation by slut-shaming her. No one in the middle of this has apparently stood up and asked just why is it her fault?\n\nIf this can happen in a city like Kolkata that\u2019s considered woke, progressive and has been known to uphold personal and sexual freedoms, what\u2019s the hope for the rest of the country? Am I to firmly retire my own bikinis and skirts and walk around in the beach sun carpeted from head to toe, like I were hiding Persian currency beneath? Even more worrying is when a college like St Xaviers with an alumni that boasts of luminaries like Utpal Dutta, Hamid Ansari, Lakshmi Mittal, subjects their faculty to a kangaroo-style court that is nothing more than a man-child\u2019s hissy fit masquerading as due process.\n\n

When a woman posts her pictures on her account, it doesn\u2019t come with a free license to download and share her images and put her under the scanner.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\nWhat an employee does outside her workplace is nobody\u2019s but her own business. It doesn\u2019t matter whether her account had public or private settings. When a woman posts her pictures on her account, it doesn\u2019t come with a free license to download and share her images and put her under the scanner.\u00a0And if you choose to do so, do it at your own salacious risks.\n\nWhat sort of blinkered world do we live in where a woman who is clearly a victim is subjected to so much humiliation, and is forced to resign. Why criminalise her career for whatever she chooses to do with her body and privacy away from it?\u00a0Perhaps the NG episode is meant to send a strong message to women that they are expected to unflinchingly be both the object and the book men want to pretend to take oaths over. Nothing for that matter is sacred to men when it comes to protecting a make-believe world of morality. A world in which every woman\u2019s a beauty until she is also declared to be the beast.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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