{"id":710,"date":"2016-05-02T13:37:07","date_gmt":"2016-05-02T13:37:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=710"},"modified":"2016-05-02T13:37:07","modified_gmt":"2016-05-02T13:37:07","slug":"sex-india-condom-ranveer-singh-ranbir-kapoor-std-i-pill-hiv","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=710","title":{"rendered":"Gift Wrap The Lovestick"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"container page-content\"><p><span class=\"dropcap\">D<\/span><\/p><\/div><p>ear Self-proclaimed Feminist Friend,\n\nHow are you? I recently saw an ad that reminded me of you and prompted me to write this letter. I would have thought that after spending four life savings\u2019 worth on your Master\u2019s degree in Gender Studies in that posh foreign university, you\u2019d have changed your stance on this one quibble we\u2019ve had since the time we were seventeen. No, not the quibble about whether Ranveer is hotter than Ranbir or not (obviously, he is). I mean the one where you don\u2019t stand up to your boyfriend when he refuses to roll on a condom while you two are bang-banging.\n\nMaybe it\u2019s none of my business, but I really don\u2019t understand. I shared your post celebrating loitering women on Facebook, and retweeted your thoughts about female reproductive rights, but am baffled by your submissiveness when it comes to your own sexual safety. I\u2019m certain that when you went for that Slut Walk last week, safe sex would have been a topic that came up. Surely you know that condoms do more than prevent pregnancy. Why, then, are you okay with bidding au revoir to Beauvoir and letting your man stick his nanga peepee into your vajayjay? Why are you okay with just popping a pill a few hours later, or worse, chilling out because \u201che withdrew in time, yaar\u201d?\n\nI don\u2019t mean to single you out, friend, but one would think that an upper-middle class upbringing, a posh education, and extensive exposure to accidental births like Donald Trump would make protected sex a mere instinct for you, but weirdly enough, it\u2019s not the case. A strangely high number of people refuse to use condoms. It\u2019s not just you, I remember the first time my mother explicitly brought up my sex life with me. The conversation went something like this.\n\n<strong>The Mothership:<\/strong> \u201cHave you had intercourse?\u201d\n\n<strong>Me: <\/strong>\u201cMa, who calls it <em>intercourse<\/em>?! You may as well say coitus now\u2026 Well, yes.\u201d\n\n<strong>The Mothership: <\/strong>\u201cSo what medication did you take?\u201d\n\n<strong>Me: <\/strong>\u201cMedication? None, we used a condom.\u201d\n\n<strong>The Mothership <\/strong>(does a vintage Ekta Kapoor serial double take)<strong>:<\/strong> \u201cWhat! That\u2019s SOOOO NICE of him!\u201d\n\n<blockquote class=\"quote--center\"><p>Yes, friend, I heard you the first 3,826 times, and I get it, he doesn\u2019t like using condoms. <\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nIt\u2019s not just my mother who was surprised that a guy would be \u201cwilling\u201d to use a condom. The narrative around safe sex even in our liberal, middle-class worlds seems mostly only about preventing pregnancy and less about protecting ourselves from STDs. HIV awareness videos starring Bollywood superstars be damned \u2013 the general idea is that it\u2019s not going to happen to \u201cpeople like us\u201d.\n\nBut friend, I expected better from you. Your murmurings of \u201che doesn\u2019t seem like THAT kinda guy\u201d seem pretty naive; after all, people with STDs don\u2019t usually walk around with forehead stickers saying \u201cCaution! Exposure to Ajay May Cause Crabs!\u201d Also, a fun fact that I\u2019m sure you learnt at the age of fourteen: STDs are not exclusively <em>sexually<\/em> transmitted \u2013 they\u2019re wily enough to move from person to person through needles, close contact, and when they\u2019re exceptionally clingy, maybe even by sharing a toothbrush (which is why I keep my oral sex and Oral B separate). This means that many carriers may not <em>know<\/em> that they\u2019re walking, talking STD vending machines.\n\nMany of my other girlfriends have spouted equally feeble excuses for not making their boys don a condom during sexytime \u2013 everything from \u201cI was damn drunk, ya\u201d to \u201cI took an i-Pill na, can you chill?\u201d Though I\u2019m sure it\u2019s a better story for the future accidental kids than spinning an imaginary tale of express delivery via the stork network, I don\u2019t need to tell you about the hormone hangover that emergency contraceptives can cause in your body.\n\nYes, friend, I heard you the first 3,826 times, and I get it, he doesn\u2019t <em>like<\/em> using condoms. However, it\u2019s indisputable that women usually face greater repercussions of not having safe sex: An unwanted pregnancy is usually our headache to \u201ctake care of\u201d and the interactions with judgmental pathologists and doctors at every stage (whether you\u2019re infected with an STD or an unwanted baby) are enough to make one challenge any male to star in a super flop reality show titled <em>So You Think You Can Vagina? <\/em>So maybe, just MAYBE, the two of you need to take your feelings into account about this together, instead of just his.\n\nI know, I know. In India, most people restrict their \u201cprecautions\u201d during sex to ensuring that they park in a quiet, dark lane where they have only a 0.128 per cent chance of being discovered by a non-bribeable entity. But come on friend, while sex may be 99 per cent perspiration, let the 1 per cent inspiration be remembering to use the trusty Nirodh. Hope Fluffy is well and good. 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