{"id":5795,"date":"2016-04-05T08:17:33","date_gmt":"2016-04-05T02:47:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=5795"},"modified":"2016-04-05T08:17:33","modified_gmt":"2016-04-05T02:47:33","slug":"decade-punishing-myself-being-overweight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=5795","title":{"rendered":"The Decade in Which I Stopped Punishing Myself for Being Overweight"},"content":{"rendered":"\nM<\/span>y women friends often reminisce and sigh wistfully over their \u201cthin\u201d days. Days when they had 24-inch size waists and could scarf down entire <\/span>12-inch pizzas<\/span><\/a> without it making a dent in the said waists. I can only be a silent witness to these nostalgic remembrances for the simple reason that I can\u2019t remember a time in my adult life that I haven\u2019t been fat.\n\n\u201cFat\u201d is such a loaded word. Literally. The extra kilos don\u2019t just bog you down physically, they signal your entry into a whole new world weighed down by shame, admonition, and a relentless vicious cycle of deprivation and over-indulgence. I\u2019ve lived in this world for more than 20 years, so this is very familiar territory. In fact, it is <\/span>home.<\/span><\/a>\n\nAs the \u201c<\/span>teen decade<\/span><\/a>\u201d of this millennium draws to a close, there is a lot of discussion both in cyber space and off it about its stand-out events and defining trends. Speaking for myself, it\u2019s been one of the most significant decades of my life. It\u2019s a time when I finally came into my own, and the \u201cself-acceptance movement\u201d I witnessed online has been a huge factor in my personal evolution.\u00a0\n\nI don\u2019t recall any other time in my life when people, especially women, were so encouraged to accept themselves exactly as they were. Sure, the obsession with losing weight still abounded. But alongside the \u201cLose 50 pounds by Christmas\u201d articles were pieces titled \u201cFitness at any size.\u201d Earlier, fat people were literally invisible to the fashion industry. The big brands just refused to make clothes for us. And the clothing that was available to us? Lord! It seemed crafted on the basis of two absolutely essential pre-requisites: it had to be both ugly and tent-like. It was almost like we were being punished for being overweight, like there was a giant retail <\/span>Soup Nazi<\/span><\/a> turning us away with \u201cFat? No pretty clothes for you!\u201d\n\nToday, the plus-size industry is booming. You can buy pretty clothing that is actually modelled by men and women who are big. Some of these plus-size models \u2013 like Candice Huffine and Ashley Graham \u2013 have a significant presence on Instagram, with followers numbering in millions. Hell, even Bollywood \u2013 the final frontier of sorts \u2013 has bucked to this trend, with films centering on fat acceptance (Gippi, <\/span>Dum Laga Ke Haisha<\/span><\/i><\/a>) being made and more surprisingly, being accepted by the public.\n\n

I don\u2019t recall any other time in my life when people, especially women, were so encouraged to accept themselves exactly as they were.<\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nWhile all these changes signal a positive and heartening change for society in general, they have done far, far more for me. For the first time in my life, I heard this clear, life-affirming message: It is okay for me to take up space. This phrase sounds misleadingly simplistic. I\u2019m not alluding to the physics of taking up space alone. I\u2019m talking about self-validation. About self-worth. About accepting myself exactly as I am.\n\nThe more I saw other overweight women putting themselves out there and recognising and owning their sexiness (yes, fat women can be sexy too! A thought I would never even have considered before, much less believed), the more accepting I became of myself. Fat-shaming trolls were usually vociferously shut down and the love kept pouring in. It was like I was witnessing a paradigm shift that challenged my core beliefs and made me see myself in a whole new light.\n\nThis is not to say that I transformed myself overnight. It has been a slow and steady journey. I have had to truly work on myself. After all, for decades I had believed that all the good things in life lay on the other side of <\/span>weight loss.<\/span><\/a> Hell, I was the type of person who bought expensive make-up and never wore it because I believed I had to \u201cearn it\u201d by losing weight first. Who shied away from meeting new people because I felt all they would see was my fat. It has taken me the better part of the decade to slowly change my self-image.\n\nI started with baby steps. I looked for things to appreciate about myself physically instead of concentrating on my flaws. Slowly, I started owning my great skin. Acknowledging that my eyes were a pretty shade of brown. In the past, when people complimented me, I\u2019d automatically assume that they were just being kind. Now, I was finally open to considering that what they were saying was true.\n\nThis self-acceptance journey over the past decade has had a most surprising and ironical fallout: I began to lose weight. In the past, I would rail and rage against my <\/span>fat.<\/span><\/a> Every Monday, I would start an extreme diet fuelled by self-hate and a fierce determination to nail down my enemy: myself. I never lasted the week. How could I? How could anyone? You can only battle against yourself for so long.\u00a0\n\nThe more accepting I became of my fat, the easier it let go of my body. I started going for walks because it was a form of exercise I actually enjoyed. Earlier, I would sign up for punishing gym workouts that I absolutely hated because I believed I had to suffer my way through weight loss. No pain, no gain, you know. I rarely lasted more than a month. Now I go for a walk twice a day and actually look forward to the experience.\n\nI also made gradual changes to my diet. My focus shifted from losing weight to gaining health and vitality. Even more significantly, if I got a <\/span>craving<\/span><\/a> for something rich, I allowed myself to eat it without going down the spiral of chastising myself for not having the willpower to resist. I no longer operate on the all-or-nothing principle. Moderation has became my new keyword.\n\nOver the past two years, I have lost 15 kg. I\u2019m a work in progress toward better health. Am I still fat? Yes, I am. But I am at peace with where I am. I wear make-up and most importantly, I participate in life whole-heartedly. I have finally realised that life is about where I am right now and not on the other side of losing the <\/span>extra kilos.<\/span><\/a>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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