{"id":5611,"date":"2016-06-17T18:04:49","date_gmt":"2016-06-17T12:34:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=5611"},"modified":"2016-06-17T18:04:49","modified_gmt":"2016-06-17T12:34:49","slug":"a-survival-guide-for-introverts-this-diwali","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=5611","title":{"rendered":"That\u2019s Me in the Corner: A Survival Guide for Introverts This Diwali"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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t\u2019s that time of the year when I dust open my trunks and take out my carefully packed-away festive clothing for the thousand and one <\/span>Diwali parties<\/span><\/a> I\u2019ll no doubt have to attend. It\u2019s around the same time I dig deep in my mental trunk and unpack the social anxiety and awkwardness that is reserved especially for this time of the year.<\/span>\n\nBehold! The stumble and stutter season is back and I couldn\u2019t be any less excited. Truth be told, I have always been a bit of a goofball when it comes to <\/span>social gatherings<\/span><\/a>. My idea of a great party is sticking to a corner where I feel most\u00a0 comfortable, avoiding eye-contact with as many people as possible, and then slinking away unnoticed.<\/span>\n\nIt\u2019s no wonder then that I revel in every non-invite. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I am not saying people are dying to have me over, or that I can\u2019t be bothered to attend these parties. On the contrary, it is my crippling inability to make <\/span>small talk<\/span><\/a> with the same set of people every day over a prolonged period that makes me want to stay at home and stalk people on social media. I am not against partying per se, but what\u2019s wrong with a new-age virtual party instead? So easy to mark attendance, send a colourful heart, and then log out, no? Perfect.\u00a0<\/span>\n\nThe <\/span>dressing up<\/span><\/a>, the process of going out, and the actual meeting, on the other hand, is too stressful. There are only so many ways in which I can air-kiss without coming across as a creep, or shake (my sweaty) hands without eventually having to wipe them on my clothes. I honestly spend sleepless nights trying to think of new ways to say hellos and howaarreeyous (how AAre you? HOW rrrr eeww?)<\/span>\n\n

The dressing up, the process of going out, and the actual meeting, on the other hand, is too stressful. <\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nI am sure if I met the same set of people for a cup of coffee, we would have searing conversations about life, the universe and everything in between. But at a party it\u2019s almost as though there is an unspoken rule that you must ask only three questions per person and no more (How are you? What are you doing these days? How\u2019s everyone at home?) I am not kidding when I say I have actually contemplated recording the answers to these questions \u2014 in the same sequence \u2014 and playing them on loop off my phone. Honestly, I think no one would notice the words aren\u2019t coming out of my mouth. Everyone seems to be on auto-pilot anyway.<\/span>\n\n\u201cHellllooo darling, how are you?\u201d someone asks the wall behind you, and you respond with, \u201cThink I\u2019m going to die of <\/span>anxiety<\/span><\/a>,\u201d and pat comes the reply, \u201cHow lovely! That really is wonderful.\u201d No one\u2019s actually listening, I\u2019m telling you. Try a few variations of this the next time you go out \u2014 it\u2019s a good way to amuse yourself.<\/span>\n\nDeclining invitations is one way to deal with the anxiety, but when you are fond of the hosts, you find yourself occasionally having to say yes. On those occasions, the dread is real. Every year I find myself googling an \u201c<\/span>introvert<\/span><\/a>\u2019s guide to socialising\u201d and that \u201cYes We Can!\u201d illustration with the woman and her inspiring bicep.<\/span>\n\nJust the anticipation of having to socialise is exhausting! The actual socialising is exhausting too. And guess what, the recuperation period post socialising is just as exhausting! With every string of light that goes up during the festive season, my comfort zone shrinks further and I want to run away faster than you can mumble the words, \u201cMan is a social animal.\u201d\u00a0<\/span>\n\n

Declining invitations is one way to deal with the anxiety, but when you are fond of the hosts, you find yourself occasionally having to say yes.<\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nOff late, I have realised that if you do ever get past the mandatory three questions and own up to the discomfort and your fear of small talk, you\u2019ll realise that you are not alone. If you look closely, you\u2019ll find people like me scattered around these parties. We are the ones running behind the host, asking if they need help with something (correction: *begging to be given any task that would save us from small talk). We are the ones having heart-to-hearts with the pets. We are the ones smiling absent-mindedly in group of people \u2014 which we\u2019re usually standing a step behind, making the circle a little wonky. But we have social anxiety remember, not <\/span>OCD<\/span><\/a>! What you can\u2019t see is that we are plotting our escape in great HD detail. From this group and the party in general.<\/span>\n\nAnd yet I know so many wonderful people who do it year after year, with a smile plastered on their faces. Attend parties, interact with people, plan more parties, make everyone feel like the centre of the universe. This lot seems to thrive in such settings. I want to officially bow down to them. You guys are my heroes. But for us recluses, the anxiety of the festive socialising kills the warmth of the season. So the next time you find me smiling absent-mindedly at a party, maybe, text first\u00a0<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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