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ifteen lakh per month!! That\u2019s the rent <\/i>Virushka<\/i><\/a> will be paying for their all-new Worli abode. And our sources tell us that Virat and Anushka will not be the only two moving into this house. Accompanying them will be none other than Anushka\u2019s first love. Guess who? Her pet dog Dude!\u201d<\/i>\n\nThe high-on-adrenaline reporter gushed from a neutral frame set up on the dingy office terrace, while the PCR went berserk firing \u201cExclusive!\u201d and \u201cBreaking News\u201d supers all over Virushka\u2019s faces. Just then Tina, often labelled \u201cTypical Aggressive Woman Journo\u201d rushed into the newsroom and suddenly all colour from her face drained.\n\n\u201cYou can\u2019t do this to me every fucking time,\u201d she yelled, as she entered a tiny cubicle, occupied by a man with a paunch as big as his ego. He\u2019d been masquerading as her boss<\/a> for close to a year.\n\nAs it turned out, that year was enough to push a seasoned journalist of nine years into her first public emotional outburst. She had broken the Virushka rent story two days ago, but thanks to Paunchy, it got buried as a 90-seconder in the entertainment bulletin. Agreed it wasn\u2019t as earth-shattering as ISI invoking djinns to spy<\/a> on India, but then her meltdown wasn\u2019t really about Virushka.\n\nWhat had been simmering deep down was months of endless snubbing, covert sabotaging, side-lining, mansplaining<\/a>, and systematic confidence-breaking. The reason: Unlike him, she didn\u2019t have a dick! It was simple. The bro code<\/a> prevailed in her office and it was #DicksOut season all year around. Her response, after a year of giving in, was an \u201cemotional female response\u201d i.e. a whole lot of tears.\n\n

But now that you\u2019ve been caught in this crossfire, understand your inner powers and be unapologetic.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\nBut what months of reasoning and pleading hadn\u2019t got her, those 20 minutes of emotional volatility did. She got a new reporting head and life changed overnight. It was a Cinderella story alright. And the fairy godmother was the ultimate weapon in the feminine arsenal \u2013 good old tears.\n\nTruth be told, whether you\u2019re working in a millennial friendly workplace<\/a> or a high-strung corporate office, it\u2019s rarely a level playing field. And by that I do not mean institutionalised discrimination like gender pay gaps, or something as brazen as sexual harassment<\/a>. The devil lies in the details. Many men believe it is an extension of their job profile to preach, patronise, and undermine a woman colleague or subordinate, or at times even the boss\u2019s work, because \u201cHey, you\u2019re just a pretty little thing.\u201d\n\nIt\u2019s exactly the kind of stuff that may not make for a convincing argument before the HR, but it works as slow poison. It kills faith in your own abilities, one snub at a time. And you feel like quitting every single day.\n\nBut stop complaining and woman up! All you need is a strong fight-back strategy.\n\nRemember, the battle of the sexes at workplace is different from any other social environment. Here, a man\u2019s arsenal is more loaded than you think. Look at it from his point of view. He was brought up<\/a> being told he is the natural breadwinner. He is He-Man. To this man, an enterprising woman is the natural nemesis, who simply waltzes in to win. So, what are the odds he is going to consciously or subconsciously resent you? Fairly high.\n\nThe swords were out long before you came into the picture. But now that you\u2019ve been caught in this crossfire, understand your inner powers and be unapologetic. If patriarchy<\/a> considers women to be more vulnerable, why not deploy it strategically to get what you want?\n\nEvolutionary psychologist Oren Hasson, while analysing the power of tears, says, \u201cIn a setting in which someone is threatened, a crying person unconsciously increases survival prospects, because an attacker understands that someone who is crying is defenceless and there is no reason to continue to attack.\u201d\n\nIn other words, it catches our Neanderthal Man from the workplace off-guard. For all his manliness, your projection of vulnerability reminds him of his own and in that moment he is shit-scared and wants to run for cover. That is your golden moment that can turn the tables in your favour. Dick – 0. Tear – 1.\n\nOf course, this is not to suggest that you begin squirting tears at the drop of a hat. You\u2019re not a drama queen, even if they\u2019ve already labelled you one. You are simply playing it smart and using what nature gave you wisely \u2013 just the way they have been doing. It is not for nothing that a woman\u2019s tears have been both extolled and loathed since the time of ancient Greek tragedy.\n\nBut you don\u2019t have to look as far as ancient Greece for lessons in their strategic use. \u00a0Hillary Clinton\u2019s tears<\/a> while running for presidency in 2008 were epic. Of course, they didn\u2019t secure her a place in the White House, but they did script her bounce back when political pundits had almost written her off. Back in the day, the emotional breakdown of Iron Lady Margaret Thatcher is the stuff legends are made of. Interestingly, she cried during a television interview while reminiscing certain trying moments in her father\u2019s life.\n\nAnd it\u2019s not just women. David Cameron, Barack Obama, even Russia\u2019s posterboy for masculine toughness, Vladimir Putin, and our chhappan-inch-chhaati-flaunting Prime Minister Modi have lavished some well-timed tears, sending out the message that they too are vulnerable. A vulnerability that, of course, would send the media in a tizzy and make the opposition cry foul, but in the end all the tear-jerking \u2013 genuine or otherwise \u2013 will definitely win them solid brownie points.\n\nWhat does that tell us? Your tear glands don\u2019t activate themselves only for emotional release. They could well be dubbed as weapons of psychological warfare.\n\nAnd yet your Neanderthal Man at work believes that tears are a sign of weakness. That boys don\u2019t cry<\/a>. Let him float in that bubble. You know better.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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