{"id":2510,"date":"2016-06-09T02:51:02","date_gmt":"2016-06-08T21:21:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=2510"},"modified":"2016-06-09T02:51:02","modified_gmt":"2016-06-08T21:21:02","slug":"102-not-out-amitabh-bachchan-rishi-kapoor-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=2510","title":{"rendered":"102 Not Out: Rishtey Mein Toh Hum Tumhare Baap Lagte Hain, Kaam Hai Nagging"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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here\u2019s a scene early on in Umesh Shukla\u2019s<\/span> 102 Not Out<\/span><\/i> that betrays the film\u2019s manipulative \u201cIt\u2019s all about loving your family\u201d message. <\/span>\n\nA disgruntled 75-year-old Babulal Vakharia (<\/span>Rishi Kapoor<\/span><\/a>), a former Mathematics professor and son to the annoyingly enthusiastic 102-year-old Dattatraya Vakharia (<\/span>Amitabh Bachchan<\/span><\/a>, vying for the award of \u201cBest Performance in Hamming\u201d), is forced to write a love-letter to his dead wife. It\u2019s part of a challenge Datta has thrown at Babu to liven him up and \u201cchange\u201d his deadpan, hypochondriac son for the better. After Babu finishes the letter, Datta decides to read it out, only to discover that years of a son\u2019s repressed rage at his overbearing father has made its way to the letter in the choicest expletives possible. Naturally, the film sugarcoats this moment as a comical scene, but it\u2019s apparent that it is essentially a warning on the perils of parental selfishness.<\/span>\n\nIn the film, Kapoor\u2019s Babu is the face of innumerable <\/span>Indian sons<\/span><\/a> who have been bound by an unspoken filial agreement to selflessly sacrifice a large part of their lives to care for their <\/span>parents<\/span><\/a>. Living with his father \u2013 meeting his expectations and giving in to his tantrums for decades \u2013 has eroded Babu\u2019s existence. In a way, his father\u2019s liveliness is the very cause for his joylessness. And yet his father thinks of himself as the ultimate protector for his son.<\/span>\n\nFor starters, Datta \u2014 who is the human manifestation of #YOLO and neither looks or behaves like he is 102 years old \u2014 milks his parental throne to decide that his offspring needs to be given a makeover. Only because he finds Babu\u2019s responsible lifestyle drab. To bring about a personality change, Datta lies, emotionally manipulates, and comes very close to ruining the mental peace of his son, only to have him succumb to his wishes. <\/span>\n\nHe\u2019s an awful parent, and yet the film chooses to paint him as the concerned <\/span>father <\/span><\/a>who only wants the best for his son. It\u2019s the hall-pass the film even gives itself when it decides to paint the younger generation (Babu\u2019s son who lives in the US) in broad strokes. He\u2019s vilified for living a life of his own, so far removed from that of his father. That fact is enough for him to be stripped of any redeeming traits. <\/span>The older generation on the other hand \u2014 Datta specifically \u2014 is shown as a victim of their children\u2019s dream.<\/span>\n\n

It\u2019s fairly clear that the two real stars of 102 Not Out, are not Rishi Kapoor and Amitabh Bachchan, but the tried-and-tested Indian parental devices of \u201cmanipulation\u201d and \u201cobligation\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote> \n\nIf Datta is to be believed, the sacrosanct duty of every<\/span> Indian parent<\/span><\/a> (more precisely, every Indian father, considering the film has zero female characters) is to clip the wings of their kids. According to him, his grandson is obliged to care for his father the same way Babu has dedicated his life to Datta. It\u2019s precisely why he manipulates Datta into cutting off all ties with him and goes as far as announcing that he no longer be considered a part of the family. It\u2019s a troubling belief, made more dangerous by the film\u2019s \u201clight\u201d tone, which justifies Datta\u2019s actions as borne out of \u201clove\u201d. Come to think of it, Datta would have hated Bunny\u2019s father (Farooque Sheikh) from <\/span>Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani<\/span><\/i>, for encouraging his child to live his own dreams and on his own terms. <\/span>\n\nIn a culture that still relies on the problematic viewing of children as the property of their parents, the film encourages pressurising the younger generation into fulfilling dual obligations of being both a caregiver and caretaker at the peak of their youth. It propagates the age-old trope of deciding a child\u2019s self-worth by their ability to be at the side of their parents, no matter what the circumstance. <\/span>\n\nWhich might have been fine in another age. But we\u2019re in an era where several <\/span>millennial<\/span><\/a> children live away from their families \u2013 encouraged by those very families. So many of us have grown up being taught that our destinies lie on foreign shores. The very definition of having \u201cmade it\u201d is to land a middle-management job in USA or the UK. How then, can we expect those same children to be by the side of their parents all the time? <\/span>\n\nIt\u2019s fairly clear that the two real stars of <\/span>102 Not Out<\/span><\/i>, are not Rishi Kapoor and Amitabh Bachchan, but the tried-and-tested Indian parental devices of \u201cmanipulation\u201d and \u201cobligation\u201d. And it isn\u2019t even the first time Shukla has advocated for regressive Indian familial expectations. His last film, <\/span>All is Well<\/span><\/i>, followed a similar worldview where the plot revolves around a son giving up his dreams of becoming a singer to join his father\u2019s business. This forced change of heart is obviously through some syrupy emotional manipulation, just like it is in this film. Despite his guilt-inducing tactics, the only message that <\/span>102 Not Out<\/span><\/i> ironically disseminates is the abject need for educating our birth-givers in the language of parental independence. <\/span>\n\nAfter all, it should also be about loving your kids.<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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