{"id":2434,"date":"2016-07-08T02:17:58","date_gmt":"2016-07-07T20:47:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/13.201.39.237\/?p=2434"},"modified":"2016-07-08T02:17:58","modified_gmt":"2016-07-07T20:47:58","slug":"childless-by-choice-india-motherhood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/13.207.105.184\/?p=2434","title":{"rendered":"No Baby, No Cry: What it Means to be Childfree by Choice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span class=\"dropcap\">T<\/span>he mother-in-law mutters a quick prayer. A promise of another 101\u00a0naryals\u00a0if all goes well. The good husband paces up and down the hospital corridor, stealing nervous glances at the red bulb shining outside the operating theatre. Just when the suspense reaches a crescendo, the magnificently boring door finally opens and the doctor with the best dramatic flourish a one-day artiste can conjure gushes, \u201cCongratulations. Ladka hua hai!\u201d Suddenly, the air fills with cheer. Tears fill the eyes of the MIL.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I try my best to control my facial expressions, as I watch the drama unfolding on TV and in my living room. The reason why every MIL, mausi, chachi, dadi of\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/love-and-sex\/how-the-middle-class-makes-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">middle-class<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0India was crying tears of joy that day was not just because one of their fave <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/pop-culture\/the-secret-diary-of-a-saas-bahu-writer-indian-daily-soaps-television\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">TV bahus<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> had become a maa. It was because not too many weeks ago, she had faced the ignominy of being declared \u201cbarren\u201d. And they\u2019d all been with her through her\u00a0\u201cdar dar ki thokre\u201d\u00a0kind of journey from one fertility clinic to the other, until miraculous reproductive technology\u00a0with\u00a0a generous dose of\u00a0mataji ka ashirwad\u00a0saved the day.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know my face is resembling that of a cocker spaniel who just got fed dog food instead of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/grub\/post-eid-biryani-binge\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">chicken biryani<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, so I turn away but not before my MIL catches me\u2026 a wistful tell-all expression of abject longing on her face. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know that expression. It spells doom. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Doomed is exactly what my MIL and every other MIL thinks of a woman who doesn\u2019t have a child neatly strapped to her bosom. There is no reason, what with technology and God\u2019s blessings, for a woman to bear the indignity of childlessness. From freezing eggs to fertility drugs, from IVF to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/gender\/karan-johar-twins-surrogacy-yash-roohi-gujarat-anand-surrogate-mother-parenthood\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">surrogates<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, there\u2019s an entire buffet laid out for you to pick from, depending on your medical reports and balance sheet. But in a society that considers baby-making the ultimate #lifegoal for\u00a0anybody with a vagina, where does all this euphoria leave women who \u201cchoose\u201d not to have children? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apparently, nowhere. Walk into any random social gathering. I can bet on my non-existent mooch that corner-of-the-eye glances, mysterious smiles, and all the whispering will make you want to channel your inner dragons and do a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/humour\/game-of-thrones-khaleesi-daenerys-targaryen-emilia-clarke\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Khaleesi<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">-style Dracarys! Every godh bharai and naming ceremony of anybody in the vicinity will become breaking news that must be hurled your way, hoping to awaken the dormant mommy inside you. Because in our society, only two scenarios are acceptable for women above <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/people\/30-new-50-thirties-ageing-kids-love-biological-clock-maturity\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">30<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Either they are moms. Or they\u2019re desperately trying to become <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/pov\/women-career-supermoms-mediocre-moms-mothers-homemakers\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">moms<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, in which case their \u201cupaay\u201d, \u201cilaaj\u201d, \u201ctreatment\u201d would have already become world famous on your family WhatsApp groups, as have invitations to the many many godh bharais. Once, I also tried inviting them to a godh bharai. Our pet Cookie was preggers. They didn\u2019t like the joke.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honestly, it\u2019s not the societywallahs who worry me.\u00a0Every woman \u2013 non-conformist or otherwise \u2013 knows how to deal with them by the sheer virtue of the fact that she is a woman. What is deeply disconcerting though, is when those with a supposed scientific temperament begin acting like the custodians of your biological clock.\u00a0Recently, a friend, a 36-year-old music entrepreneur, visited a top city <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/gender\/gynaecologists-india-sex-education-sex-polycystic-ovarian-syndrome\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gynaecologist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> seeking medication for rashes around her private parts. Nothing could prepare her for what came next.\u00a0Two of her recommended list of tests had little to do with the problem at hand. They were ovarian tests often meant for women who want to freeze their eggs. On being confronted, the gynaec threw in a ton of medical jargon justifying the tests and then casually slipped in by-the-by that shouldn\u2019t she be considering freezing her eggs anyway, since time is running out? And should she eventually decide to \u201csettle\u201d, wouldn\u2019t it be sad to be deprived of the pleasures of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/pov\/mothers-judgemental-people-earth\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">motherhood<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><blockquote class=\"quote--center\">But in a society that considers baby-making the ultimate #lifegoal for\u00a0anybody with a vagina, where does all this euphoria leave women who \u201cchoose\u201d not to have children?<\/blockquote><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was wrong at so many levels. My friend didn\u2019t ask for any of this. Not the advice. Not the tests. And certainly not the enlightenment on her prospects of begetting children. Because she\u2019s clear, she doesn\u2019t want them. She doesn\u2019t want to be \u201cchildless\u201d. She wants to be \u201cchildfree\u201d. That\u2019s where all the difference lies.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although still a\u00a0hyper-minority, the number of women\u00a0\u2013 single or married \u2013 deciding against having children is growing. The reasons could be varied. Maybe she doesn\u2019t want her career taking a backseat. Maybe she doesn\u2019t want to have to think a dozen times before setting sail. Maybe she feels the world we live in is just not safe enough to create a new life. Or maybe she just doesn\u2019t feel maternal enough. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All of these are valid reasons in my book or in the book of any rational person who understands the full meaning of the word \u201cchoice\u201d. But this choice of being \u201cchildfree\u201d is nothing short of blasphemy. Society finds it hard to respect a woman\u2019s choice in a lot of matters \u2013 of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/love-and-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/love-and-sex\/sex-tinder-india-open-marriage-open-relationship-dating\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2013 but this one is beyond the pale. How can you not want a child? Isn\u2019t it going against your DNA as a woman and your purpose on this planet? Isn\u2019t having a child been ingrained with the four \u201cashramas\u201d as the only possible life pattern since time immemorial? How will you do grihastha ashram without a child?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A new life pattern that does not involve children has not yet been conceived in spite of how far we\u2019ve come as a society. What we have instead, is a celebration of progress in the form of 21st century technology that we conveniently use to reinforce old social dogma. A modern tool to keep the modern woman in check. The difference probably is that if a woman without kids attracted pitiful looks 20 years back and was subjected to bizarre rituals to impress the Goddess of fertility, today she is subjected to invasive technology to find a solution. And if God forbid, she decides to do away with the needles and the endless IVF cycles, she\u2019s judged for being the \u201ccareerwaali type\u201d who has no interest in fulfilling her womanly duties. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What we don\u2019t get it is that expecting every uterus to pop out a baby\u00a0because we now have ways to fix infertility, is like expecting every crow to bag a Grammy\u00a0because we now have the Acapella App.<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The western world has been grappling with the childless versus childfree debate for the last few years now. What has helped though is a slew of women celebrities openly identifying as childfree. Jennifer Aniston, Oprah Winfrey, Ashley Judd, and many more\u2026 these women have spoken out about not feeling the need for a child to \u201ccomplete\u201d their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In India though, the closest we got to this was Kareena Kapoor talking about not wanting kids with Saif Ali Khan back in 2013. And three years later, a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.arre.co.in\/pop-culture\/taimur-ali-khan-saif-ali-khan-kareena-kapoor-childrens-day-gift-jeep-reporting-page3-glamour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">legend<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> was born. Of course, her choice again. But what one cannot overlook is that while an increasing number of B-town celebs are becoming mascots of IVF, surrogacy, and adoption, the idea of being childfree by choice is probably far too politically incorrect for them to endorse, even if they do decide to not have a child. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because what\u2019s a woman who can\u2019t say at least once in her life, \u201cMain tumhare bacche ki maa bannewali hoon.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Society finds it hard to respect a woman\u2019s choice in several matters of sex and marriage, but the decision to not have children is beyond the pale. How can you not be a mother? 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