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A<\/span><\/p>couple of years ago, I got dumped by Zeba, who I believed was my soulmate, life-long paramour, and other words I learnt from Pablo Neruda. You can go ahead and brand me a schmaltzy romantic but we had been together for close to five years and were pretty damn close to getting engaged until it all blew up in my face. (If you want to read more about the nuances and contours of my mourning period, <\/span>here<\/span><\/a> I am pouring my heart onto a page.)<\/span>\n\nI naturally did what everyone explicitly told me not to do: Plunge head first into <\/span>Tinder<\/span><\/a> and Bumble. After umpteen one-night stands with septum-pierced <\/span>anarchists<\/span><\/a>, morally depraved PhD candidates, and alcoholic cabin-crew personnel, I realised what everyone was trying to tell me: You can go all-in with promiscuity, but low self-esteem will always call your bluff. <\/span>\n\nJust as I was about to <\/span>hang<\/span><\/a> my head shamefully to a chorus of I TOLD YOU SOs, \u00a0I matched with Trishala.<\/span>\n\nThe lights at Bandra\u2019s Su Casa might have been brighter on that breezy March night we met or maybe I\u2019m <\/span>just imagining things<\/span><\/a>. Either way, her face lit up as the wind made her soft curls brush against her pink cheeks and her sharp Iranian nose. (Yes, ok maybe I am a schmaltzy romantic.) <\/span>\n\nBut Trishala did seem really cool. She sipped on an overpriced nariyal pani cocktail spiked with <\/span>Old Monk<\/span><\/a> and told me about her job as an art curator. Between poking fun at my spoken-word career and discussing our mutual disdain for <\/span>board games<\/span><\/a> in bars, Trish and I hit it off well. Two dates later, we were on the brink of couplehood.<\/span>\n\nThe <\/span>rituals<\/span><\/a> of entering couplehood are familiar \u2013 deleting our <\/span>dating app<\/span><\/a> profiles, posting mushy <\/span>Instagram stories<\/span><\/a> from our Woodside Inn <\/span>brunches<\/span><\/a>, lots of weekends spent indoors, and copious Netflix-ing. There was also that thrilling aspect of being introduced to new things by virtue of being in a new relationship. In my case, it was pumice stone-based bath salts and the wonderous world of old <\/span>Bombay<\/span><\/a>\u2019s little Irani cafes, one of which was established by Trish\u2019s great-grandfather. I knew our honeymoon phase was peaking when her address began popping up in my <\/span>Uber<\/span><\/a> destination suggestions and everything seemed dandy. <\/span>\n\nExcept, I was still struggling to get over Zeba. <\/span>\n\nFinding a relationship before you\u2019ve found closure, induces an eerie sort of guilt \u2013 the kind you feel when cheating on a partner. It envelopes you slyly, when every act of affection from the new love makes you inadvertently wonder what life would have been if only your old lover could have been like this. Then this feeling intensifies and your top-searched story on Instagram features the name of your ex. And there comes a day when you are unable to respond to any breathless <\/span>declarations of love<\/span><\/a> from your current love. There are only so many kiss smileys and \u201cokay babys\u201d that you can send in response to <\/span>\u201cI Love You\u201d<\/span><\/a>, before they call you out. <\/span>\n

Your rebound love could be the messiah who held your trembling hand and mangled heart when you needed it the most, unknowingly reminding you that love is pretty rad if you let yourself feel it.<\/blockquote>\nTrish did just that. Ten months into our relationship, we sat in a <\/span>dimly lit<\/span><\/a> corner of another fancy restaurant, where the cold vibes between us made the crushed ice in our margaritas seem <\/span>toasty<\/span><\/a>. I tried offering her some bruschetta but she simply shook her head. She didn\u2019t waste time bringing out the heavy artillery. She made it clear that she knew full well about my emotional baggage when she got into this, but she\u2019d hoped that one day I\u2019d stop saying Zeba\u2019s name in my sleep. <\/span>\n\nTo her eternal credit, she didn\u2019t seem angry. Just disappointed. She made it clear she understood that <\/span>healing takes time<\/span><\/a>, but could not, in good faith, agree to be my crutch as I limped onto the path of forgetting my ex. Little did I know that, \u201cI love you too much to watch you suffer\u201d, would be the last time I\u2019d hear Trish say I love you to me.<\/span>\n\nShe and I didn\u2019t speak after that but I stopped hunting for other women to fill the void Zeba left in my life. Though I still type in my ex\u2019s handle on Instagram search, the ex in question is now Trish and there\u2019s less rage and more remorse as I scroll through her tagged pics. <\/span>\n\nTrishala taught me that closure doesn\u2019t merely mean getting over your ex. And a \u201crebound\u201d doesn\u2019t always involve a fuck buddy or facilitator of closure. <\/span>\n\nSometimes, they are<\/span> a person you might have, under kinder circumstances, fallen hopelessly in love with. Your rebound love could be the messiah who held your trembling hand and mangled heart when you needed it the most, unknowingly reminding you that love is pretty rad if you let yourself feel it. They could be absolute strangers who temporarily became your safe place and ensured your faith in love is left stronger than before they met you. <\/span>\n\nRebounds, as I can now testify, are sometimes the people who risk losing part of themselves just to make you whole again.<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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