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A<\/span>s the first day of the first month of the new year arrives, we gather around the the fireplace or Twitter and Facebook, making new year <\/p>resolutions<\/span><\/a> about getting that banger bod and quitting (or taking up) drinking\/smoking. But we forget the one thing we should be making resolutions about: The biggest driver of emotional investment and embarrassing phone calls or drunk conversations every year that is dating.<\/span>\n\nSo this year, for 2019, the year of years, the best year ever until the end of this year, let us resolve not to suck at dating. Here\u2019s how.<\/span>\n\n1.\u00a0 Don\u2019t Be a <\/b>Social-Media Stalker\u00a0\u00a0<\/b>\n\nSometimes, most times, our rare real-life encounters are converted into dates. We exchange Snapchat ids, and decide to get drinks next week. In that week though, we scour all info on our date, stalking their Instagram to Facebook to LinkedIn (what even are you?), creating a mental image of what s\/he might be like. By the time the date happens, you\u2019re prematurely underwhelmed. You\u2019re disgusted at their choice of unfunny, garden-variety internet comics as they ignore Jim Jeffries. Or you\u2019re extremely overwhelmed, seeing how they share the same affection for <\/span>Frances Ha<\/span><\/i> and obscure hipster bands only you thought you knew about. The date then is always weird, which becomes a game of defying or living up to expectations for both parties involved, defusing the tense naturalness of getting to know someone new, which is, always, ALWAYS, the best part of dating.<\/span>\n

At worst, you\u2019ll fleetingly experience something new and interesting.<\/blockquote>\n2. Don\u2019t Go Looking for Your Type<\/b>\n\nA few weeks ago, my male colleagues and I were discussing scruffy dudes with large eyes in tight jeans and cotton shirts, who walk into a party with a guitar, rock some sad music, and by the fourth drink, run the room. When another woman colleague walked in, we told her the premise, showed her a generic desi <\/span>balladeer on Facebook, only to have her say, \u201cHey, he\u2019s cute.\u201d<\/span>\n\nThat wasn\u2019t a great story, but my point is that in 2019, don\u2019t go looking for a \u201ctype\u201d. Make a list of people you\u2019ve dated, check their common traits, and date only those people who display none of them. <\/span>Falling for \u201cshared interests<\/span><\/a>\u201d, is an inefficient way of eliminating potential romances, so in 2019, be more experimental. <\/span>\n\nAt worst, you\u2019ll fleetingly experience something new and interesting. At best, you\u2019ll have discovered your \u201ctype\u201d.<\/span>\n\n3. Say No to Coffee Shops<\/b>\n\nSince time immemorial, women and men have gathered around courtyards and Reddit to find out how to plan interesting dates. Ladies, Gentlemen, this year, please don\u2019t ask anyone for coffee or drinks. <\/span>\n\nIf you want it to be casual, then newsflash, 9 pm drinks on Saturday isn\u2019t casual, for it might lead to sex. Which leaves you with the burden of later explicitly making it casual. Or not. For if the date is just that, a date, an initiation of attraction to the mind and the booty, then for the love of whatever is holy, do something more interesting than heading to Starbucks.<\/span>\n\nTake them out for a ride at an ice-skating rink. Let them whoop your arse at pool. Or even try learning something together, like taking a salsa class. Literally anything other than you judging each other\u2019s liver capacity will work.<\/span>\n
When you are introduced to someone via a common friend, you don\u2019t know whether you\u2019ll go out for years or fight and never see each other again.<\/blockquote>\n4. Dump Dating Apps<\/b>\n\nCall me old-school, but the 10 seconds that it takes you to walk across a crowded party or bar and utter the word, \u201cHey\u201d to someone new, is an <\/span>extremely underrated action<\/span><\/a>. The adrenaline rush, the stutter in the step, the looking down at your shoe to not seem forceful, are the great joys of being young and stupid. <\/span>\n\nUnpopular opinion here, but apps like <\/span>Tinder<\/span><\/a> have normalised \u201cghosting\u201d, and nullified a primordial reason why we date: the idea of possibility. When you are introduced to someone via a common friend, you don\u2019t know whether you\u2019ll hook up or go out for years or fight or just chat about something interesting. Tinder is <\/span>goal-oriented<\/span><\/a>, where people explicitly state what they want, eliminating the possibility of surprise. Sucks.<\/span>\n\nIn 2019, change how you meet people. Some of you will be captivated, while some of you will go to bed lonely. Whatever the outcome, you will learn lessons for a lifetime.<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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