dating Archives

The Lure of Vicarious Dating for Committed Couples

Vicarious dating operates on many levels, from swiping through a friend’s Tinder to replying to texts on their behalf. It’s the act of flexing long unused seduction muscles to find a mate not for yourself, but somebody else.

Aditya Bhalla March 23, 2016

Love and Sex

The Secret Pleasures of a Boring Relationship

Pop culture conditions us to see spontaneity as the true sign of romance. Except the pressure to be cool, and with it, and switched on all the friggin’ time is impossibly exhausting.

Aditya Bhalla March 18, 2016

Books

What is Love?: Aastha Atray Banan Decrypts the L-Word in her Latest Release

Aastha Atray Banan’s “The L-Word” is a deep dive into the world of modern dating. From left swipes to long distance relationships to polyamory – this collection of gyaan coupled with anecdotes decrypts what “love” is in today’s times.

Arré Bench March 18, 2016

Love and Sex

My Tinder Bio: Not Here to Mother 20-Somethings

As a single Indian woman in my late 30s on Tinder, I’m a rare breed. I recognise “u up” as the millennial mating call. But I draw the line at “I’m really into older women” because that’s Indian guyspeak for “Please be my substitute momma.”

Ramya Pandyan March 17, 2016

Pop Culture

Why I Want a Desi Version of Netflix’s Easy To Grasp the Complexities of Millennial Dating

Easy not only dissects our lives, but also acts as a reference for all the feelings we may be feeling, but are unable to articulate. It’s precisely why I call for a desi version of the show. Let’s face it, the lack of intimate discussions around sex, gender, and sexuality in India have done us more harm than good.

Shubhangani Jain March 8, 2016

Love and Sex

The Post-Break-Up Confession: Honesty is the Worst Policy

A break up is followed by a round of post-break-up confessions. What could be wrong with straightforward honesty from the person who deeply cared about us? But in this seemingly friendly break-up match, no one wins – and most importantly, you lose the hardest.

Poulomi Das March 6, 2016

Love and Sex

Why You Should Swipe Right on Promiscuity Before Marriage

“Sowing your wild oats” is an age-old, regressive idea ascribed to young men before the “settle down” phase. I’ve never set store by it, but watching my young friends seek sex outside marriage, I wonder if there is something to the theory. If we don’t play the field enough before shaadi, will we experience FOMO?

Jackie Thakkar March 5, 2016

Parenting

Why You Should Let Your Children Make Mistakes

When I see my daughter making the same mistakes I made at her age, I long to rush in and take over the reins of her life. But I remember how I dug in my heels, how rebellious I felt when my parents tried to do this with me, and I hold back. Sometimes, you just have to let your children make mistakes, even mistakes that you know for certain will break their hearts and leave them in pain.

Modern Maa March 5, 2016

Love and Sex

Dating in Your 30s With the Ghosts of Girlfriends Past

The beginning of every new romance is laden with the prospect of a different kind of “ghosting” – where the thoughts, memories, and spirits of our past partners haunt our present affairs.

Vikram Poddar March 4, 2016

Love and Sex

The Rise of the Planet of Nice Guys

When a “nice guy” turns sour, what he is actually upset about is the loss of a hypothetical future he assumed he had with you.

Nimisha Misra March 1, 2016