We are extremely vocal about the inherent patriarchy of festivals like Karwa Chauth, but we still celebrate Bhai Dooj. This is a strange dichotomy because both festivals are based on the same concept – that man is stronger than woman, who is always in need of protection.
As the mother of a special needs child, the Indigo incident was triggering. For it brought back memories of the times where I have fought discrimination and societal ignorance to get my child to be treated fairly.
When I see my daughter making the same mistakes I made at her age, I long to rush in and take over the reins of her life. But I remember how I dug in my heels, how rebellious I felt when my parents tried to do this with me, and I hold back. Sometimes, you just have to let your children make mistakes, even mistakes that you know for certain will break their hearts and leave them in pain.
Raising children is never an easy business. Parents need all the help they can get. There is a reason why my father would once think of our original Mary Poppins VHS tape as a sound investment. Transfixed for the 140 minutes that it played, my sister and I would be out of his and my mother’s way.