Gender Archives

“You’re a Good Girl Na?”: Why We’re Raising Our Girls Wrong

If we need women to break out of the exhausting idea of selflessness, then pressuring them to “be a good girl” is exactly the sort of thing that needs to stop. What we need is a culture that sees dissent and opinion as signs of progress, beyond the myopic view of parental disobedience.

Riddhi K April 30, 2016

Gender

Home Run: Why Every Woman Needs A House of Her Own

A few days ago, I invested in a house of my own. I want a home where I don’t have to spend three days in a month lurking outside the kitchen because it’s “that time of the month”. I want a house where I can’t be removed from no matter what (or who) I do. Not by misogynist landlords or housing societies that randomly decide they don’t want “bachelors”.

Sonali Kokra April 30, 2016

Gender

Dispelling the Myth of the Housewife Who “Sits at Home and Does Nothing”

Let’s be proud of the women making their life decisions of their free will, whether they choose to fly a plane 30,000 feet above sea level or to run a home the way they wish. They never needed your permission anyway.

Huzan Tata April 28, 2016

Gender

How India’s Courts Are Proving to Be the Last Line of Defence Against the “Love Jihad” Law

On Sunday, the Allahabad High Court reunited an interfaith Hindu-Muslim couple while also quashing an FIR against the Muslim husband on charges of abduction. Though the “love jihad” laws infantilises Hindu women, assuming them to be incapable of choosing their own partner, the HC ruling is encouraging.

Arré Bench April 28, 2016

Gender

Open Letter to the Man Who Sexually Abused Me. And Never Got Reported

Think long and hard about the way you – all of you, men – have abused, harassed, molested, and hounded women. The floodgates have opened. India’s #MeToo moment has arrived. There’s no going back from here.

Ayushi Murli April 27, 2016

Gender

#MeToo: Why Women Refuse to Believe Other Women

India’s #MeToo moment has been built entirely on the back and labour of its women. But the most dispiriting part has been the lack of support from some outliers – women who refuse to believe the testimonies of survivors.

Ayushi Murli April 27, 2016

Gender

#MeToo: How Does the World Judge the Wives, Daughters, and Sisters of Sexual Harassers?

As scores of working women accuse, name and shame their predators, quickly turning them into poster boys of hate for all of womankind, what happens to the wives, the sisters and the daughters?

Alka Shukla April 26, 2016

Gender

One Year of #MeToo: Do Men and Women Understand Consent Differently?

For many men, consent is a boundary that has to be challenged, rather than respected: Whether it’s Nana Patekar, who insisted there was a “misunderstanding” between him and Tanushree Dutta, or the allegations against Aziz Ansari that were chalked up to a bad date.

Kahini Iyer April 26, 2016

Gender

Should It Matter to Your Employer If You’re Gay? Why Then is Delhi HC Lawyer’s Elevation as Judge Delayed?

Delhi High Court lawyer Saurabh Kirpal believes he is facing discrimination on the basis of his sexual orientation. He has been recommended for elevation in October 2017 but since his initial nomination the decision to elevate Kripal has been deferred four times.

Arré Bench April 22, 2016